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My mother is a perfect example of a modern independent woman. She holds a fairly high position in a state-owned company, leading more than hundreds of employees. The job is extremely stressful but she got paid handsomely, greatly contributing to the family's economy. Every day, my mom has to work hard at the office. She can not come home before 8 p.m., but as soon as she gets home, she has to do a lot of housework. From cooking to washing dishes to laundry and even more work if it’s not for my and my grandma’s help, my mom does all of that just to conform to the standards of “A woman for all seasons” set by society. Watching my mother struggle like that, I can not help but wonder: “Would the society in the past be much better?” It's obvious that nowadays, working to make money and doing housework at the same time makes you feel twice as tired and stressed, right? Wouldn't it be so much easier and happier for women to just live a peaceful housewife life like in the past?... But then that same child feels that it's unfair for women who like to dream, to do big things that no one dares to dream of. What a difficult question.
But then I realized an obvious but difficult truth: Society is expecting too much from women, setting such high standards for them. No one is perfect, regardless of gender, ethnicity, or race, so why do we have to force women to do everything? So what is right? Choosing a career or choosing a family is more feminist? Idealistically, people should not be forced to choose one. The function of feminism is to create a safe space for women to chase and achieve their big, traditionally “un-lady-like” dreams without having to sacrifice their femininity. A woman who chooses a peaceful marriage and family life to stay at home and take care of her children also deserves to be respected and the same goes for a women who prioritize her career.
In short, what is feminism? Google said it is the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes. I would like to add that when we fight for feminism, we fight for women to be safe, to be respected, and to have the right to do things as equals. Like men, they have the complete freedom to choose whether to use those benefits or not, rather than being forced to bear all those expectations. Our community's job is to support and love women, protecting them no matter what rights they choose, that’s all.
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